Christianity, the religion of love, is condemned for being hateful; in the meantime, those who hurl this accusation are wholeheartedly embracing hatred, not least for Christianity.  What is going on?

Well, many things.  But one of them is that the Christian understanding of hatred, based on charity, is being replaced with another understanding of hatred, based on identity.  For the Christian, to hate someone is to desire ill to him.  That is wrong.  One must desire good for him – which may in some cases require that he change his ways.

But for the person caught up in the ideology of identity, to think that someone needs to change his ways simply is to hate him, because it is a rejection of who he thinks he is.  A person who holds this ideology may will all sorts of ill to those who do not celebrate the unchanged ways of others.  Because they are haters, you see.